Happy Tuesday Everybody,
We're continuing the Learning Challenges/Disabilities blog series.
For those just joining us, I will include the preface I had up for last week.
There
are young people in the world struggling with learning differences (sometimes
called learning disabilities) who may or may not feel they aren’t as good as
those who don’t have these disabilities/challenges.
The
three of us—Bethany Averie, Ryan Jo Summers, and Christie Craig—have all faced
learning disabilities/difficulties and based on our personal experiences, and
what we see in the world today, were inspired to share our own stories with
you.
We’ll
be posting each author’s Q&A style on all our blogs. Last week was Bethany Averie. This week will feature Ryan Jo Summers, then
the next Christie Craig.
Our
wish is for you teens and young adults to never be afraid to dream big. In a
world where less than someone’s definition of perfect can mean the difference
between acceptance and rejection, we want you to stand up and pursue those
dreams no matter if you do face learning disabilities/difficulties. Don’t let
those things stop you. If we can do it, so you can you.
Given
the sensitive nature of this topic, we ask that those who choose to comment
only post positive and encouraging comments. We’re wanting to build people up
and inspire them, not bring them down.
So,
here are our stories, and we wish you all the best.
Briefly
tell us about yourself (your name, your YA story titles, anything else you wish
to say about yourself):
My name is Ryan Jo Summers. I write contemporary romance fiction
and free-lance non-fiction, essays and scribble poetry for fun/ therapy. I have
written a YA novel, working title of “Flashes of Lightning” and currently am
working on trying to find a publishing home for it. I love animals and six of
the seven animals living with me are rescues with their own luggage of
differences. Three are occupational hazards of when I used to be a veterinary
technician.
What
are your learning disabilities/difficulties and do you remember how/when you
were diagnosed?
Dyslexia, poor eyesight and being left-handed were the biggies.
Now days we don’t see being left-handed as a disability, but back when I was
young, it was unacceptable to be ‘different’ from everyone else. Because of the
poor eyesight, I struggled to see the blackboard. It took to the middle of
second grade for my parents and teacher to figure that out, so by the time I
received glasses, the impaired learning was already set.
As a result of being ‘different’ I was frequently called
“retarded” at home by my family, who did not understand my issues were either
not really issues at all or could have been easily corrected much sooner. This
degrading caused low self-esteem and certainly depression at an early age,
which fed into the “I’m retarded and useless” thinking, which fed into the “I
can’t learn” mentality. I also suffered incredible headaches, which made it
hard for me to concentrate, retain information or recall information. I had small seizures, in which I drifted off
and became ‘lost’ to what was happening around me. To many, that just confirmed
I was ‘retarded’.
To this day, I still loath and cringe at the word ‘retarded’.
It would take many years—up into Jr high to prove my family
wrong. There was never an official diagnosis until I was grown. And made it a
point to educate myself. I eventually
outgrew most of my difficulties. Eyeglasses brought the board into my world. I
studied hard, brought up my grades. In Jr High and High school, I carried a 4.0
GPA. I took advanced, challenging classes, excelling in English and science
courses. Finally no one could call me ‘retarded’. I still struggle with
dyslexia, especially with numbers. And today being left-handed is no big deal.
The headaches were finally diagnosed as migraines, once I left home, and I take
daily medication for both that and the occasional seizures I used to have.
Since
finding out, what are your emotions towards your learning
disabilities/difficulties? Why?
I don’t recall much, except resenting and being hurt by my
family’s insensitive actions. They were supposed to be my support system. Not
the case. I was socially challenged, not having many friends until I became a
teen. Eventually, I learned to use school as my place to escape, a place where
I could earn acceptance by the school staff. That unconditional acceptance was
a precious blessing to a depressed and lonely kid. I could work hard, study
hard and knew my teachers appreciated my efforts. Now I know that was wrong, in
a way, but it worked then. I regret my family could not have been understanding
and encouraging of my struggles, instead of adding to them. To this day, it still hurts.
I feel parents and school staff should be more open to correctly
diagnosing symptoms they see instead of quickly slapping a label on them. I
raised two special needs step sons from the ages of 3 and 6. The older one was
considered ADHD & Learning Disabled and the younger one was considered
Learning Disabled. The
older one was hyper, but he was also acting out
because of his parent’s divorce, the fact he had no control in his life and he
was angry and scared. The younger one certainly was slow to learn, at three he
uttered instead of talking and was not potty trained yet. Like me, he was a bed
wetter well into his teens. Much of his issue was reinforced by his older
brother’s treatment to him. He eventually caught up to where he needed to be
and today is an eloquent, intelligent, and methodical young man.
What would you say to someone who has them who thinks they’re
not as good as other people because they have learning
disabilities/difficulties?
You are just as good as the rest of the world. You have
something to contribute too. Never, ever, let anyone tell you are less. You may
have to try harder, but that application will be noticed. You don’t have to
listen to negative, ignorant or cruel people. Never hang your head in shame.
There is nothing to be ashamed for. Make no excuses. Make change. Make your own
mark.
How
have your learning disabilities/difficulties shaped you/what you do?
I had to become tough. To think outside the box of what seemed
normal for everyone else. To believe in myself. To focus on the positives and
the now. To know when to walk away from those who intended to harm me. Words do
hurt, but I don’t have to stay and listen to them. I have strong opinions and I
have to watch how they sometimes come across. I still struggle with occasional
bouts of depression but have learned to cope. I write, draw, create poetry,
cook, whatever works. Hug my dog. Water the plants.
Clearly I don’t have much of a relationship with my family, so I
have become resilient and independent. I treasure the friendships I have. My
experiences in life make it hard for me to trust, but I am learning. I am also
much more open minded and compassionate.
Briefly
tell us about your Young Adult (YA) books, etc.:
“Flashes of Lightning” is the coming of age story for
16-year-old Tabitha McGowan. She loses her best boyfriend buddy and falls into
a world of new friends. She is introduced to Magick, and falls for the bad-boy
new mechanic in town.
She becomes estranged with her family. The reader follows
Tabitha’s journey from typical teen to young adulthood. She makes lots of
decisions, some good and some not so smart. She is a kid, a young lady, many
can identify with and root for.
My other books are adult romance, written in a twisted blend of
contemporary, time travel, mystery, Inspirational, suspense, paranormal and
sweet romance. They can be found at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and Smashwords
Most are novels, with one anthology and one novella.
