Lately I've been working on a couple of new projects. One of them has to do with one of my published novels, and the other one is a WIP. Both projects are moving along pretty well and I'm looking forward to seeing what happens with them.
One of the projects deals with another side of writing that's often talked about, but some authors struggle with--networking.
It's funny, but I get asked about this more often than I thought I would. I really don't consider myself an expert on the subject, I'm pretty much doing what everyone else does--picking which social
|Me with the amazing Christie Craig|
If I didn't open my mouth and network
I wouldn't have gotten to know this gem of a person
A lot of authors are shy and/or introverts. Some aren't, but the majority I've come across actually are. I count myself one of them.
"YOU?!!" people cry in total disbelief, while assessing me to make sure I'm not having a mental breakdown. (Okay, maybe that's an exaggeration, but their expressions make me wonder if they think that I am having one).
|Me and the very talented Teri Thackston|
We've enjoyed many a fun conversation
and she's an imaginative author to boot.
"But-but you talk all the time! You approach people. You're no introvert and you can't be shy." (Somehow being an introvert translates to people are incapable of talking or approaching others ever in their lives. Which makes me wonder how would we interview for a job or pitch our novels or meet our spouses if we didn't open our mouths once in a while?)
I usually smile and/or laugh and say "Oh, I am, honest." (Because it's true).
Unless they know me really well, they never believe me (or rarely believe me). However, my Girls' Night Out ladies do.
One of them I've known since the 4th grade will flat out tell you I'm
|Authors Jennifer Bray-Weber & Stacey Purcell|
such sweet encouraging ladies
So much talent!
Another one of the ladies I've known 20+ years and she'll be like "Bethany? Oh yeah, she's introverted and shy. Definitely."
And the other, who is like a little sister to me--I've known her several years (although not as long as the other two). She'll say, "Oh, yeah, she's an introvert and shy."
You see, they've seen the woman who gets quiet the more people there are around her. They've seen me go several minutes without saying a single word. In fact, sometimes they ask me if I'm okay. Generally I'm fine. I'm just thinking about things. Reviewing stuff or daydreaming. I'm a writer, so those daydreams are potential novel material.
The reason most people don't accept this about me is because they
|Me, Christie Craig, and Thriller-author, Will Graham|
Christie & Will are such awesome people
extremely good writers, too.
Then of course, my parents were active in the community. They did a lot of work for the church and they had many friends (they still do). So we'd have open houses and parties and family reunions. I had to be able to carry on conversations, even know how to do "small talk".
Over 30 years of doing all this, I've developed a motto. It goes like this: "You have to take your shyness, put it under your feet and stand on it." That is, you can't let it get in your way. So yeah, you
|Cows on a friends' ranch, because, why not?|
They don't seem like they'd make good conversationalists, though
As an author the main person who will promote me is me. How else will people know about the new projects I have going? Or what books are about to be
|Because it's Throwback Thursday...|
Me, senior year of high school. Eek!
The really cool thing is, most of the conversations I strike up end up being really good. People are usually supportive and interested. They like the idea of having met the author personally and hearing
|Me, with authors Kerrelyn Sparks, & Christie Craig|
So, take a deep breath, put your shoulders back, paste a smile on your face, and walk up to someone and say, "Hi! Can you believe the weather we're having? Hot, then cold, and rain. Yuck." (well, if that's the weather you're having, anyway). Once you've engaged them, you can say something like, "Do you like to read?" and go from there. You never know--they might even want your card or bookmark or website address. You don't know if they will get your novel, but they definitely won't if they don't know about it.
When I meet editors and agents at my RWA's chapter's annual conference, I generally open with "Welcome to Texas. I hope you're
|My editor, Debby Gilbert from Soul Mate Publishing,|
and me at the 2014 NWHRWA Conference
I understand it's not easy. It really isn't easy for me, either. But it's doable and sometimes you're pleasantly surprised.
Have A Tremendously Thrilling Thursday!